Thank you for trying to care and spread love to all of God's creation, even those with chronic illnesses like myself.
But... I have something to say to you.
1. A lack of faith isn't why I suffer.
Why be condescending towards me? Is your faith strong than mine just because you don't have a chronic illness?
2. God doesn't necessarily want me to be "healed."
Do you know God's will for me? Am I pre-destined to be healthy?
3. Suffering doesn't make me a bad Christian.
Living with depression and suffering from disabilities is not the same as living in sin. I don't need to be saved from the burden of physical limitations to reach salvation and find joy in God.
4. Do I need to be healthy to fulfil my life's purpose?
Are only the most physically and mentally qualified people allowed to do God's will, as if we're hired to do a job with prerequisites?
5. I'm still waiting for you to stop telling me what to do, how to feel, how to act, and what to be. I'm praying for you to seek to understand, not to be understood. All you have to do is let Jesus live through you, you don't need to be a dictator on how to have faith. To quote Bono, "Stop helping God across the road like a little old lady."
6. Laying your hand on me and praying for me in public is not always the best way to spread the Gospel. God blesses those who pray in silence when no one is watching. My faith is deeply personal, and I don't need you to put me on display. I respect and understand the need for a faith community, but while I'm on the clock at my job is not the time to prove your faith for me by forcing me into a few minutes of spoken prayer.
7. Faith is not an emotion. Let me say that again. Faith is not an emotion. If the Christian pop song on K-love doesn't melt my heart, make me stop what I'm doing to put my hands up in the air, and feel God's love it doesn't mean I'm lacking faith. I'm not charismatic in my faith. I don't need God to give me emotional highs to know He's present. I'm not falling away from God and into sin when I feel sad, depressed, lonely, or angry. I'm sorry if I don't look like I'm Christian just because this very new evangelical culture (as in it's not as old as the Church or the Bible) doesn't work for me, but I'm not trying to prove anything to you. I only have to prove my faith to God, and I can do that in silence where no one can see while I'm feeling depressed and angry. I don't want to be on display, fake or force emotions, or even feel guilty for not expressing my faith through emotion. I do not feel guilty for not being charismatic. But you might notice my faith through how I treat and care for people.
8. Consider that my suffering is actually a blessing to my soul, and that perhaps it's helping me serve God better. Is there not something to be learned from any experience? Should we not always grow as people? Can I not be formed into a strong faithful person through difficult times?
9. Stop telling me I'm not doing enough. You think I have to make an appointment with some stranger in some office building to have them pray over me for me to be healed? You think I have to fly to another state to meet with some special spiritual healer over 12 days in order to heal? You think my church community isn't good enough if they're letting me suffer? You think receiving the Sacrament of Anointing of the Sick is not effective and your special spiritual leader is the only one who can help? Have a little faith in me and my faith community.
10. I see that you're trying to make the world fit your worldview that you think encompasses God's will for all of his creation.Please never stop learning, updating your worldview, and seeking new understanding. Stick to your values and morals - you need them! But allow yourself to empathize with people. Sometimes life isn't as simple as following rules that fit your worldview.
11. Consider that I don't have the energy to have deep conversation about which denomination I am every time you see me.Consider that you might be driving me away from the Christian culture due to how exhausting it is to listen to you tell me how my denomination is wrong, my faith is incomplete, and I need to change my personality to fit how people with faith should be.
Thank you for listening. Have a conversation, in which we take turns listening to each other without giving each other orders, with me when I can handle it. Ask for a time when it won't drain me and make me suffer more. Just stop telling me I'm wrong because I'm sick. I'm too tired to keep being beaten down by your lofty standards for Christians. Stop bragging about your faith being why your life is so good and mine has problems.
Sincerely,
A Concerned Christian
Note:
Each of these points are referring to specific encounters with multiple, various people. Most of them were complete strangers. These are not arbitrary references. I've debated on writing this publicly for over a year now, and it's time that I released the pressure and finally just express myself. I am legitimately concerned about how a couple (out of several) Christian cultures is treating people with Chronic Illness, but I believe all Christians need to hear my letter.
5. I'm still waiting for you to stop telling me what to do, how to feel, how to act, and what to be. I'm praying for you to seek to understand, not to be understood. All you have to do is let Jesus live through you, you don't need to be a dictator on how to have faith. To quote Bono, "Stop helping God across the road like a little old lady."
6. Laying your hand on me and praying for me in public is not always the best way to spread the Gospel. God blesses those who pray in silence when no one is watching. My faith is deeply personal, and I don't need you to put me on display. I respect and understand the need for a faith community, but while I'm on the clock at my job is not the time to prove your faith for me by forcing me into a few minutes of spoken prayer.
7. Faith is not an emotion. Let me say that again. Faith is not an emotion. If the Christian pop song on K-love doesn't melt my heart, make me stop what I'm doing to put my hands up in the air, and feel God's love it doesn't mean I'm lacking faith. I'm not charismatic in my faith. I don't need God to give me emotional highs to know He's present. I'm not falling away from God and into sin when I feel sad, depressed, lonely, or angry. I'm sorry if I don't look like I'm Christian just because this very new evangelical culture (as in it's not as old as the Church or the Bible) doesn't work for me, but I'm not trying to prove anything to you. I only have to prove my faith to God, and I can do that in silence where no one can see while I'm feeling depressed and angry. I don't want to be on display, fake or force emotions, or even feel guilty for not expressing my faith through emotion. I do not feel guilty for not being charismatic. But you might notice my faith through how I treat and care for people.
8. Consider that my suffering is actually a blessing to my soul, and that perhaps it's helping me serve God better. Is there not something to be learned from any experience? Should we not always grow as people? Can I not be formed into a strong faithful person through difficult times?
9. Stop telling me I'm not doing enough. You think I have to make an appointment with some stranger in some office building to have them pray over me for me to be healed? You think I have to fly to another state to meet with some special spiritual healer over 12 days in order to heal? You think my church community isn't good enough if they're letting me suffer? You think receiving the Sacrament of Anointing of the Sick is not effective and your special spiritual leader is the only one who can help? Have a little faith in me and my faith community.
10. I see that you're trying to make the world fit your worldview that you think encompasses God's will for all of his creation.Please never stop learning, updating your worldview, and seeking new understanding. Stick to your values and morals - you need them! But allow yourself to empathize with people. Sometimes life isn't as simple as following rules that fit your worldview.
11. Consider that I don't have the energy to have deep conversation about which denomination I am every time you see me.Consider that you might be driving me away from the Christian culture due to how exhausting it is to listen to you tell me how my denomination is wrong, my faith is incomplete, and I need to change my personality to fit how people with faith should be.
Thank you for listening. Have a conversation, in which we take turns listening to each other without giving each other orders, with me when I can handle it. Ask for a time when it won't drain me and make me suffer more. Just stop telling me I'm wrong because I'm sick. I'm too tired to keep being beaten down by your lofty standards for Christians. Stop bragging about your faith being why your life is so good and mine has problems.
Sincerely,
A Concerned Christian
Note:
Each of these points are referring to specific encounters with multiple, various people. Most of them were complete strangers. These are not arbitrary references. I've debated on writing this publicly for over a year now, and it's time that I released the pressure and finally just express myself. I am legitimately concerned about how a couple (out of several) Christian cultures is treating people with Chronic Illness, but I believe all Christians need to hear my letter.
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